Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Crossroads Indeed


Did you make it to the Blowout? Every band, and every single thing there was great. There wasn't anything bad at all. Nothing whatsoever. On that rare occasion that someone had to hear something they didn't like, it's only because the performers were either too young or too old to be a part of the listener's social circle.

Back in reality, where standards aren't relative, something awful happened Friday night. All-around swell guy Tonio David Dace decided that he wanted more in life. Proving a slew of awful stereotypes full time just wasn't fulfilling the potential that was only hinted at in his motto, "I FUCK HOES N GET MONEY". His charm just wasn't enough to enable him to accomplish his harem fantasy, in keeping with the first part of his motto. To rectify this, he kidnapped three young women attending the Blowout, who had just gotten out of The Painted Lady and into their van, so that he could sexually assault them (a fourth woman got away). In keeping with the second part of his motto, he later urged one of his victims to get money out of an ATM, which provided the opportunity for police to catch him. (Source)

Since I didn't provide "A Band's Guide to the Metrotimes Blowout" this year, I'll provide an aftermath guide for various parties
  • To the media in general: In keeping with the ethical standards of journalism, you have all refrained from naming the victims. Well done. Go a step farther and refrain from describing the acts which comprised the sexual assault. Unless the victims want to come forward and reveal them, keep it under wraps for the sake of their dignity. (I will not provide the link to make my case. You'll just have to trust me when I say that one outlet went too far in their description)
  • To the Metrotimes: You've released two issues since this happened, and you have not yet publicly acknowledged this crime. Put aside your pride for a moment, and remember that you're supposed to disseminate information above all else. Since hundreds of people could talk of nothing else for the following week, your silence is appalling. I'll offer you a compromise. If you can acknowledge that the crime happened, where it happened, and when it happened, you can leave out that the victims were there for your event.
  • To the Dace family: Don't say ridiculous things. Telling the media "He didn't do this", and "He was in the wrong place at the wrong time", just makes your family look worse. He was caught in the act. No one is going to believe that three women who had just been horribly victimized felt that it would be a great time to pick up a hitchhiker. Everyone already thinks that you're awful for creating, harboring, and failing to instill morals into a sociopath. While you're at, don't try to give the "innocent until proven guilty" line. The members of the public that have at least half a brain don't need to wait for the judicial system to tell them the obvious. You should just lay low for a few years, and not speak to the media unless you want to express your condolences to the victims.
  • To the owner, staff, and regular patrons of The Painted Lady: I understand that it's only natural that you're going to be wracked with thoughts of "It could have been me", of "I could have done something to stop it", but it's not productive or helpful. It can also sound like you're kind of making it about yourself. This tragedy has more to do with the breakdown of the social contract amongst the urban underclass than anything else.
  • To people asking for sympathy for completely unrelated events: Don't ask the public for help for relatively trivial problems that only affect you. Real tragedy has a sobering effect on people, and causes them to ponder who in the world really needs help. I realize the timing isn't your fault, and you might have even scheduled something before the horrific crime took place, but maybe you shouldn't exploit the concept of charity for the next few months.
  • To the members of the general public that have expressed outrage: Be aware that you barely reacted when two women outside your peer group were kidnapped a few days earlier. They still haven't been found, and kidnapping victims that aren't found alive within 48 hours rarely survive. Many of you lumped the crimes together after the fact, but everyone knows you weren't that motivated until it hit closer to home. As for letter writing campaigns, send them to Wayne County Prosecutor Kim Worthy. Judges are supposed to remain objective, and therefore really shouldn't be reading those types of letters until there is a guilty verdict, and the sentencing hearing is scheduled.
  • To the peers of the victims: If you don't have specialized training to counsel this type of victim, don't offer any unless directly asked. Even I know better than to offer any. Also, be more careful about what you're expressing on facebook. Unintended hints were given that might have allowed someone to identify a victim.
  • To the young woman who was almost the fourth victim: If anyone even tries to suggest that you should have done more, or hypothesizes on what they would have done in your place, you are entitled to strike, stab, or shoot them. The law doesn't agree, but I'm sure there are scores of sympathetic people willing to collude and provide an alibi for you.

This doesn't belong under the heading of a guide, so it doesn't deserve a bullet point. I know the chances are slim that one of the victims are one of my five readers, but I'd like to express something to them anyways: I'm so sorry this happened to you. Multiple governmental institutions, and maybe even American society at large failed to prevent this. (Also, don't scroll down any further. This post ends with an image you might not be ready to look at)

As we all wait impatiently for the wheels of justice, we'll have to settle for this:

You also have the option of getting yourself thrown into Wayne County Jail on some pretense, just for the opportunity of punching this walking colostomy bag in the face.

18 comments:

  1. Well done. I wanted to wait 2 issues of MT to do something like this also. Basically to give them the benefit of the doubt to take the time to create a reasonable article or editorial. Guess they're too busy picking which hydroponic ads to send to the copy editor.

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  2. You make some very good points, but I think this whole "you didn't care until it hit closer to home" sentiment is really unproductive. Let's encourage those people who are upset by this incident to get more involved in their communities and keep the momentum going rather than wasting time admonishing people for "not caring until now."

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  3. Metro, don't let my post discourage you from taking your own unique shit on the Metrotimes.

    Laura, that particular critique might have been insensitive, but that doesn't make it untrue. Though to be fair, I'm probably guilty of it too.

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  4. >> As for letter writing campaigns, send them to Wayne County Prosecutor Kim Worthy. Judges are supposed to remain objective, and therefore really shouldn't be reading those types of letters until there is a guilty verdict, and the sentencing hearing is scheduled.

    Entire piece is absolutely correct but the above point should be given strong consideration.

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  5. You can be a bigger idiot than jr at times. You’re dabbling in an area when you may have an opinion but you have little to no insight on Hamtramck, how women feel or crime in our cities. i.e. – do a little research and check the facts numb nuts.

    Point 1 – you can say this about any crime; protect the innocent (thanks)

    Point 2 – the metrotimes is an “entertainment magazine”. They don’t have what I would call a hard hitting reporter or editor. What would they say? Rape is awful, we feel very sorry for the 3 women and their families, and the guy who did it should be in jail. Ok maybe. But, they hold an event in a bankrupted town, with little law enforcement – shit is gonna happen. Just as it has happened at the Lager, The Magic Stick, etc … I guess I'm saying the metrotimes is not the bad guy in this tragic crime.

    Point 3 – Thank you again Captain Obvious

    Point 4 – If you go out in a semi dangerous city, you have to think about yourself. I think people wondering and worrying about being a victim in a crime is a good thing. Be selfish and protect yourself at all costs.

    Point 5 – I have no idea why this is even a point in your little essay

    Point 6 – I guess you pull facts out of thin air to make whatever simpleton point you can. This is stupid. There is plenty to be outraged about in our area – thanks for being our “voice of conciseness” and scolding us for not being outraged at the right time. In other words I reads this as “don’t bitch now; you missed your opportunity with the first 2 rape victims”. Fuck off moron.

    Point 7 – I agree and you should follow point 7.

    Point 8 – again, you should follow point 7

    And to BM – if you write a little piece on this – check your facts before you write it, do a little research and don’t ask jr for any help.

    jr sucks

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    1. JR might get jealous if he finds out that I stole his stalker.

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  6. I'm really worried about you right now. When your sadism crosses a line like that. . . a line that threatens things that may actually make you happy. BTW. It's called deflection. When too many creeps are focusing on gruesome details a loud aggressive woman will give them something new to yelp about.

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  7. sigh. . . Jon, I want you to think about your mentors. I see very strong and important people who have invested their trust in you, who if caught wind of your new 'Gore' link may be sad that you are unhappy. You are very much cared about Jon. I was out Friday night and saw many people who I would think don't want to see you ostracize yourself. I want you to know for my personal benefit that I was a switch once and know that patient friends can create peace to help one 'level up' so to speak. I also knew that with your (in my perspective) 'blame my father/society says it's cool/sadzt fer lyfe' tat that you were wasting my time. No worries. The most important thing I wish to impress on you is that no matter what side of the team you are on, fetish is meant to give you an outlet to express yourself without disturbing your personal goals. Jon. It takes 48 hrs to stop drinking. xo

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  8. I think your stalker just surpassed mine

    -jr

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  9. wait, who's the fucking stalker? fuk you bj. enjoy your social death. prick.

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  10. Beansie, once again you are making no sense at all.

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  11. Stop trying to make me feel bad about your suicidal tendencies. That goes for Casey too. I fought death since birth. If you cannot respect me or my ideas, you do not fit in to my life.

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    1. Beansie, you're still not making any sense.

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  12. i heard already. it's your life. just don't say i didn't notice. i told you that if you asked that i would be there but it just seems like a big prank now.

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    1. You'll be there for me? Just like in the Golden Girls theme song?

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  13. i have lots of sociopaths around me, take a number.

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    1. Then maybe you should stop hanging out at The Loving Touch.

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